||[Apr. 8th, 2005|11:15 am]
Discussing Civil Unions in New Zealand
I've been meaning to post a bit of an intro since this community started, and now's a good a time as any! My name's Lhizz, and I've been living with my partner Peter warpart since 1991. When we'd been together for about five years, we commemorated it with a pagan handfasting in Cornwall Park, Auckland, surrounded by friends, and when we went to the US in 1998, we picked up a "classy" souvenir - a drive-thru wedding in Las Vegas! We were going to get a matching Tijuana divorce, but it would have ended up too expensive so we remain legally married in the state of Nevada :)|
So as you can probably see, I maintain a healthy scepticism about the institution of marriage. I've never really been interested in weddings as such, and I dislike many of the traditional conventions, like the idea of the father "giving away" the bride to the husband. I'm quite lucky in that my parents haven't put any pressure on me to get married, although things might change if/when we have a child. I think it's fundamentally unjust that, if my partner was female, I wouldn't have the freedom to pay my money and get a marriage license, where she would automatically become my legal partner and next of kin. I was a little divided when the Civil Unions Bill was first proposed, because part of me sees it as a compromise designed to placate those who don't have any business poking their noses into other people's relationships anyway. However, it's better than nothing at all and maybe one day we'll see gay couples with the same right to walk into the registry and get married if they want to.
I'm also still in two minds about getting a civil union. Politically, I want to show my support for it, and I like the idea of celebrating our love and commitment in as many different ways as possible (I must be a wedding collector :P) Plus I kinda like the idea of designing our civil union in a very personalised way, as well as it being a ceremony I could invite my family to. But I don't think either of us are really in any hurry to go through the drama and expense of arranging that sort of celebration, and, well frankly, we're quite happily puttering along the way we are. So I guess what I'm saying is that we might get one at some stage, but there's no rush :)
Anyway, I look forward to hearing about everybody's ideas and plans for their unions!